MORE THAN ORDINARY By Lori A Alicea

It was just an ordinary fall morning putting in my usual mileage walking around the track nearby my house.

The manicured grounds which used to hold the local county fair in the summer were re-imagined decades ago into Fairgrounds Park, paving a pathway encircling the outer edges of the grounds for walkers, runners, bicyclists, and dogs on a leash, with softball fields, a playground, an event pavilion and a skate park soon to open, each taking their place on the remaining acreage of the park.

Oh, the miles of memories I’ve made enjoying the fresh air of the mornings along this neighborhood track, with peace and tranquility sensed within the stillness of the hour.

Once pushing my toddler daughter in her stroller with her older brother crowding his sister for a place to rest his tired legs, now years later re-creating memories with her daughters and my youngest granddaughters thankfully in a two-seater model after driving their brother to school.

Nothing was out of the ordinary that crisp October morning at Fairgrounds Park.

The leaves were changing into their brilliant October colors as expected, those brushstrokes of harvest painted onto the naked canvas of fall, the season which ushers in those angora sweaters, campfires, high school football games and yes, the holidays.

Nothing was out of the ordinary as I smiled and bid good morning to walkers passing the opposite direction of me in the other lane.

While walkers and runners opt to trade the peace and tranquility for music in their ears, somehow, they return the gesture after translating their morning greeting from my lips.

After completing my first ¾ of a mile lap around the park, I noticed something out of the ordinary in a walker which took me another lap before I had the courage to stop this military veteran still full of strength and vigor, to thank him for his service.
IMG_8673As a military mother proud of the flag and her son serving his country as a Lieutenant Colonel in the United States Army, an officer who has taken an oath to defend the red, white and blue, I was eager to hear his story.

Proud to be an American as his shirt devotedly states, the smile on this Air Force veteran was proud to share his more than ordinary service with me.

His name is Richard Burke, an Airman First Class who served the Air Force branch of the military with honor during the years 1959 thru 1963, ending his service right before the United States first entered the Vietnam War.

Richard put in his time at Barksdale Air Force Base in Louisiana for the first two years of his service and Ramey Air Force Base in Puerto Rico (now closed) for the same amount of time, serving alongside a team who evaluated flight crews for the KC-135 Stratotanker aerial refulers and B-52 Stratofortress bombers.

Speaking so freely and proudly, I have no doubt there is a book written in Richard which I could have listened for hours his recounted pages in the military, who selflessly read from one of his coveted chapters honoring his superior from Ramey Air Force Base in Puerto Rico, a full-bird Colonel who once served in WWII and later impacted the soldier’s life standing before me.

Richard narrated with passion and love for his Colonel, who in WWII, flew B17 Flying Fortress heavy bombers for the entire twenty-five missions allowed, when during one mission or another, his entire crew including his co-pilot sitting right beside him lost their lives in these military operations.

The full-bird Colonel received a silver cross for his twenty-five missions, while his crew received their gold star status.
dads house flag“Just didn’t seem fair”, this Airman First Class remembered.

I noticed Richard smiling and shaking hands with another walker a few steps earlier, sharing stories with a soldier who deployed to Vietnam right after Richard’s time in the service had ended; details only a veteran would understand.

How interesting, as the latest book I’ve been reading is written by a soldier who gave a great sacrifice for this country while serving in Vietnam.
AC9816B4-1F77-4917-92D3-1C14E2505810Airman First Class Burke left our time on the track by honoring my military son and his service to this country.

Veterans honoring veterans…

Something more than ordinary that October morning at Fairgrounds Park.
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THE RIPPLE EFFECT By Lori A Alicea

Created by God…

We are each born for greatness.

We are born to make a difference.

We are born with gifts uniquely matched for our God-assignment.

We each have a ripple effect, touching others beyond our reach, beyond our life’s stone cast across the water into ripples on a pond.

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I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the water to create many ripples.
Mother Teresa

You don’t have to do something great or be someone great to have a ripple effect on others…
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Just a desire to change the world for one.

The ripple effect of his life’s stone cast across the pond went as far as eyes could see into the sunset.

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The years will continue to tell his story thru the ripple effect of those he touched down stream when one-changed-life affects change for another, and then another.

Stopped in my tracks when I caught a sound-bite of him through the open Dutch-door one Sunday morning attending this church for the first time thirty-three years ago, as I looked to find the age appropriate class for my young daughter that day.

Peeking in, I jumped as he startled me with those military commands to put his nursery age class in formation, preparing them to march, as they were now drafted into the Army of God; or should I say, Marines.

My daughter was late finding her class as we stayed and watched in awe this Marine guy and his Second-in-Command (wife) get this platoon in diapers ready for war.

MARCH…1..2..3.

A few soldiers walked, with Mr. Marine army-crawling on the floor with the other recruits.

As usual in the nursery, the children begin missing their parents and Mr. Marine comforts them as good Marine’s do.

There’s no crying in the military”,
Then diverts their attention by detonating bombs of Cheerios.

INCOMING…INCOMING…soldiers take cover”.

There were a few causalities when the urgent call sounded,

Medic, I need a Medic…”

As Mr. Marine handed those soldiers with explosions of their own to his Second-in-Command and sending them to the infirmary.

This Marine guy went into the trenches with his platoon, loving these small soldiers and casting his life’s stone across the pond of their lives, creating rippling effects for years to come as they grew.

 I left that military zone with a smile on this single woman’s face, wondering if Mr. Marine had any brothers for me.

Imagine thinking such things in church.

Mr. Marine did have a name; it was Gunnery Sgt. Joe to the United States of America.
Sgt. Joe cast his life’s stone into many ponds, thus widening the rippling effects of the lives he touched with a soldier’s love, kindness, and even military toughness when necessary.

Sgt. Joe was a husband of forty-plus years to his wife, a father to two daughters, a grandfather to six, a teacher and mentor to men and marriages, and an elder at church.

Sgt. Joe was one brother among five.

Sgt. Joe was Uncle Joe to two generations of nieces and nephews who were crazy about him.

Sgt. Joe was Mr. Joe to a decade of school bus children; a world-changer to them one life at a time.

Sgt. Joe was also a matchmaker, as he did have a brother when I wondered that first day in church.  David and I met and married five years later, with Sgt. Joe officiating our 25th Wedding Anniversary Renewal.

Twenty-seven years go by and we’re witnessing once again the rippling effects of Sgt. Joe’s life while standing to receive the guests of his memorial service, those waiting in line for an hour at minimum, a line which wrapped around our church foyer and never emptied until the service began, a tribute to the ripples in his life’s pond that stretched as far as eyes could see into the sunset.

Yes, it’s true, you don’t have to do something great or be someone great to have a ripple effect on others…

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Just have a desire to change the world one life at a time; and Sgt. Joe did just that.

THE FINAL CALL By Lori A Alicea

We are all called by God to give honor,
Where honor is due.
(Romans 13:7)

The military also gives such honor,
To its deceased soldiers in a final roll call
At their life’s celebration.
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As a family, we recently said good-bye to one of our own,
A proud marine who faithfully lived and died by these three simple words:

God, Country, Flag.
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Presenting to our fine marine,
The honor now due him.

THE FINAL CALL
By Lori A Alicea

Before our eyes a sea of blue,
Attention straight and tall.
A roll call of our fine Marines,
Who took the clarion call.

Defend our Lady Liberty,
Protect our countries shore.
A roll call of each faithful name,
Who proudly stands before.
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Where one by one Marines are called,
The flag is flying near.
FLAG FLYING NEARAnd down the list, those dressed in blue,
Acknowledge that they’re here.

But heaviness of silence felt,
The roll call stops the same.
When one Marine does not respond,
Or answer to his name.

But try again this soldier’s name,
ACKNOWLEDGE Sergeant Joe!
The roll call waits for his response,
But each Marine they know.

The faithful never leave their post,
Their heart and soul give all.
This brotherhood of tears concede,
Must be his final call.

The dog tag worn around his neck,
The names of our Marine.
Identify the man he was,
The hidden and the seen.
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A dad to four and papa six,
A brother and a friend.
An armor bearer, uncle too,
A hand of hope to lend.

A child of God, beloved son,
A warrior on his knees.
Who lived to give his life away,
Embraced the least of these.

A husband of one bride he loved,
No name could dare compare.
And at the feet of Jesus lay,
The crown he used to wear.

Then arms are raised, three volley rounds,
Bombs bursting in the air.
A gun salute which bursts a heart,
Without her soldier there.
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Resounds, a bugle call of TAPS,
The words, A day is done.
His faithful years they fade into,
The drawing of the sun.
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The flag is folded end to end,
For which he gave his life.

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The service of a proud marine,
Presents a soldier’s wife.
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His country held against her chest,
Down flowing from her cheek.
The years of love she shared with him,
Her tears begin to speak.

Her heaviness of silence felt,
MY GOD! MY GOD! My heart!
This soldier’s wife, God grant her peace,
The years they are apart.
DIANE SAYING GOODBY
A name now stricken from the roll,
Though etched in memories set.
A name who loved those stars and stripes,
His country won’t forget.
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Our fine Marine he took up arms,
Defend our countries shore.
A roll call now of faithful ones,
His Savior, stands before.
GUNNERY SERGEANT JOSEPH ALICEA
Gunnery Sergeant Joseph Alicea
September 23, 1955 – July 30, 2021

A country thanks you for your service.

I AM A LIFE, THAT WAS CHANGED By Lori A Alicea

I once read:

Never underestimate the valuable and
Important difference you make in every life you touch.
For the impact you make today
Has a powerful rippling effect on every tomorrow.
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This rippling effect of one man’s life would touch me down stream years after he and his wife jumped head first into those deep waters on search and rescue missions for those marriages drowning in the rip currents of their choices.

A Godly couple living the example

“‘till death do we part”.

Two ordinary people who taught on marriages every Sunday afternoon for decades; who spent the remainder of the week throwing out life preservers and life-lines for those willing and not willing to grab hold for another chance to live.

The cries of those hurting kept these two up at night searching the desperate waters for marriages about to be lost at sea; with some marriages ditching the radar altogether of being found.

Such was the man in this marriage.

A man who wanted to charter his own boat, navigate life his own way, regardless of the distress flares and signals from his drowning wife.

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But an ordinary man with an extraordinary call for marriages kept throwing out life-lines for this husband to stop swimming against the current of God and jump into His boat of surrender and freedom.

Life-line after life-line the search and rescue continues, never losing sight of this couple at sea.

When one day a worn out man takes hold of the one unwilling to give up the rescue.

A surrendered heart and a marriage restored.

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His legacy continues.

Never underestimate the valuable and
Important difference you make in every life you touch.
For the impact you make today
Has a powerful rippling effect on every tomorrow.
Anonymous

Yes, never underestimate the difference you make in the lives of those you touch.

Two ordinary people intersecting the path of two others needing life preservers, now jump head first into those deep waters on search and rescue missions of their own, for those needing resuscitation of a new beginning.

This impact of one man’s life now touches me down stream years later through my future brother ‘n law with an introduction to his brother, who later became my husband.

One man’s life changed my heartache and single life of raising two young children without a male influence into joy forever.

THANK YOU
By Ray Boltz

…….
Thank you for giving to the Lord
I am a life that was changed
Thank you for giving to the Lord
I am so glad you gave.

Surrendering and saying “yes” to God changes everything.

The love between my brother ‘n law and wife re-ignited the flames of their heart which could only be attributed to the Author of Love Himself.

Their passion for one another is evident in his wife’s smile and smiles of their grandchildren.

Their commitment
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Is celebrated on their 40th wedding anniversary renewal, a day almost lost at sea had it not been for a search and rescue mission of two called by God to marriages.

My husband and I for years sent an anniversary card to our brother and wife who kept in covenant to their wedding vows, because we wouldn’t be celebrating anniversaries of our own had they not grabbed hold of that life preserver.

Remembering that love is patient, kind, not envious or boastful or proud, never dishonoring, not self-seeking or easily angered, keeping no record of wrongs, rejoicing in truth, protecting, trusting, hoping and persevering.

Holding on to the life preserver of love which never fails.

A love my husband and I shared with others at our 25th Wedding Anniversary celebration, all because two people decided to stay married, who officiated our renewal, whose rippling effect on our lives is now splashing down stream to our legacy.

I am a life, that’s been changed,

My brother ‘n law Joe has affected many other lives as well; I would greatly underestimate the impact that flowed down stream from his life.

A devoted marine and love for his country, Joe honors the veterans who sacrificed everything to serve.

Joe alongside his daughter serves during the holidays, preparing a banquet before our soldiers, our country’s finest.

Joe ministers in the trenches of the hurting, the forgotten, the addicted; a band of brothers leaving no man behind.

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Joe is a dreamer; a diligent servant and provider for his family.

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Joe’s love for laughter and heart for God ministers in huge waves to his family.

More than anything else, Joe’s ability to connect with children is his biggest splash.

A marine to the core, Joe passes on his military passion to rise up in young soldiers a heart for Christ.

Joe is our Toys ‘R Us kid at Christmas.

Well, maybe not.

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Joe’s house has been a house of hospitality, a hospital for hurting these past twenty seven years, open for anyone who knocks or needs a soft pillow to lie on.

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Joe who is no stranger to the mission field,
Recently graduating from a program in missions, believing one day to hand out life preservers on the other side of the world again.

Joe’s life has been poured out on many with others still waiting their turn down stream.

Sadly for us, a celebration and graduation of a different kind has taken place for our dear Joe as he stands before the sea of lives he’s touched, those waiting for him as he enters the gates of heaven.

Flags fly at half-mast in the hearts who loved him dearly.
JOE MILITARY Flag half mastA country says good-by to one of its finest soldiers; a void visibly seen.

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A choir of angels sing as our brother takes his first steps on those golden streets of heaven.

THANK YOU
By Ray Boltz

….
As Jesus took your hand
As you stood before the Lord
He said, my child look around you
For great is your reward.

Thank you for giving to the Lord
I am a life that was changed
Thank you for giving to the Lord
I am so glad you gave.
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Bishop used to remind us that good seeds sown in death always produce an abundance of fruit.

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A basket overflows at harvest because Joe lived to give his life away.

Just days ago our Joe walked thru the front door of heaven when we earnestly prayed for this door to open.

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But God had a different plan.

Our hearts grieve yet rejoice as Joe has already seen Jesus.

This family couldn’t be any happier.
We stand and salute a soldier for his life well lived.

Welcome Home Papa Joe.

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Welcome Home.

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ANOTHER MILITARY MOVE By Lori A Alicea

It’s only been three years this time.

Three years to meet the neighbors and become a block of friends and family.
Three years for the kids to find their group of friends in

Soccer

Gymnastics
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Church
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Three years to become part of the children’s school as room mother.

Three years to find all the hideaway running and bicycle trails to adventure on.
2019 england fathers day adventure 7Three years to add another baby to the family portrait.

Three years to remodel a fixer-upper to make a house a home.
IMG_8538It’s been only three short years and it is time to pull the tent-spikes from their temporary home as the Army orders for our son and family have been served and it’s now time for another military move.

Home is your safe place, your place of refuge.
IMG_8537Home is where you hang your hat.
Home is where you can be yourself.
Home is that door post where you keep a record of your children’s growth chart.
Home is that table of family dinners and conversation.
Home is that bed of sweet dreams where only your pillow and blanket will do.
Home is your address where memories are made.

Home is that backyard created for children in mind.

To swing.

To sit by the campfire.

Home is a set of front steps that welcome you with open arms after being gone all day, or a seat where children eat their morning breakfast of donuts.
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But duty calls and now it’s time to say goodbye.
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It’s time to pack up the house and forward the mail. It’s a time to say goodbye to the friends, the familiar, your favorite coffee shop, the usual route to work.  It’s a time to hug that faithful babysitter you entrusted with your children.  It’s time to find a new home for the outside cat that welcomed you in the neighborhood three years ago and never left.
USE THIS CATBeing a member of the military you accept their core values, and one of them is honor.

Regarding honor, the Army states that:

Honor is the one that embodies all the others. Honor is a matter of carrying out, acting, and living the values of respect, duty, loyalty, selfless service, integrity and personal courage in everything you do.”

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It’s that selfless service putting America first that makes serving in the military so hard. But you embrace the call and grace to serve your country well with pride and great courage.

Serving your country requires great sacrifice, especially family ties that must endure the heart’s tug of war of those frequent goodbyes. As grandparents we must be willing to let our grandchildren go with love and joy as the call to serve is a family affair.

This past weekend my husband and I spent many hours driving to bring our four babies home so we could reunite the cousins who haven’t been together for over three years. We wanted this special time together as a family before our military babies leave again for another three year journey, much farther than ever before.  They won’t be within driving reach anymore and we will rely on technology to watch them grow.

How the faces of our little loves have changed since the last sleepover three years ago. A few of our grandchildren weren’t even born yet.

We had to get one last bike ride in for the memory books. And so much more.
IMG_0181These four faces will be unrecognizable in three years from the smiles we see today. Letting go is bittersweet.  We can’t be selfish to hold them back, but a grandparent’s heart tells us to scoop them in our arms and never let go.
IMG_0184In times of sadness we lean on our faith in God, as he has mapped out our lives, he’s ordered our steps. God has a great big wonderful plan if we’d trust him and embrace it.

23 The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he delighteth in his way.   Psalm 37:23 (KJV)
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If our steps are ordered; and God loves us more than we could imagine, then who are we to argue with God in this military move.
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